VI – Learnalilgivinanlovin


If anyone thought that I would be in bed recovering for ages after this op – you in da wonggg lab. It’s been a bit painful and taking medication is not fun (I don’t even like taking paracetamol), but it’s been alright! I suppose the medication thing is just something I will have to get used to! It’s been two weeks now since the big op and today marks 4 weeks since the original ultra sound. Recovery is going great guns; I haven’t taken a single pain killer since Monday morning! My movement is restricted, however I am spending time every day doing physio exercises and massaging; I am definitely seeing improvements. Much to my mothers’ dismay, I am considering getting back into some light exercise. Does anyone want to do the bridge to bridge with me? (Jokes, Ma). I will start by going for a walk or possibly sitting on the bike at the gym. I am really not keen on letting my body waste away.

The breast cancer institute provided me with a psychologist appointment the other day, so I went and sat with her for an hour or so and chatted about life. I was more interested in finding out what the ‘normal’ reaction is for people that find themselves in this situation and how they cope with it. She told me some stories about ladies that have been diagnosed with breast cancer that have no support network, no family, are pregnant, single mums with 3 kids, really devastating stuff. It made me think that things could just be so much worse. With the life I have had leading up to this, I don’t think I could have been more prepared, or supported, to handle the sitcho. The amount of ridiculous injuries I have endured that have seen me hospitalised, in a moon boot, sling, on crutches or on the couch indefinitely, were like training sessions (however, the pain of this is nothing on the Richter Scale of pain compared to the 2011 episode of the humerus shattering dodgeball debacle). Lots of things just seem to be falling into place, for example Ash, Nikki and I were supposed to be moving house and had already handed in our notice to cease the lease (rhyming is fun). So the timing of that has been perfect to allow me to move home and be waited on hand and foot by my slaves family and friends. I have a ridiculously large support network of family and friends who are hectically superb.

Before all this hoo ha started, I had planned on chopping my hair off and donating it to the Pantene Beautiful Lengths programme. A beautiful person once told me that change is as good as a holiday, so I thought there would be no better time than to do it now, while my hair is still healthy. My amazing fam got in on the action and we all went to see the lovely ladies at ‘Do’ in Glenbrook to transform us into the Bob Brigade. If anyone has hair long enough, I totes recommend you get the chop and donate it. It has to be 20cm long (which sounds like a lot bit it isn’t really) and not dyed. If you have short hair, maybe you could grow it for this specific purpose; it’s an awesome cause. Here is the link:

In between the gazillion appointments I have been attending, I have really enjoyed hearing from everyone and catching up with all my loved ones. I get my energy from people; I think over the next few months I am going to need more of an energy reserve than I ever have before!

I’m also spending time trying to read up on nutrition for oncology patients and have found that there is A LOT of conflicting information, lots to do with alkalising and detoxing etc. Main things I have learnt are to cut out alcohol, lower your meat intake (I’ve been a pescatarian for years.. meaning the only meat I eat is fish) and eliminate processed food. If anyone has any past experience, tips, expertise or advice, I would love to hear from you.

I’ve learnt in the past few weeks the amount of stigma involved with the word cancer; lots of people are scared of it. I hate the word, but as my wonderful cousin Kristy said; it is just a word. Yes it’s different to what people are used to and it causes a lot of anguish, but it’s just a word. Contradictory I know, but I think cancer might be able to be used as a cure for something. As Max Lucado has so eloquently put it, a lot of people spend time looking for a cure for the common life. I think cancer can be used as a cure for the common life. Seriously, everything tastes better, everything smells better and I have never felt so loved before in my life. You guys should try it, it’s wild.

I’ve created a small survey on the bottom of the page, if you’re reading this I would appreciate it immensely if you could fill it out. Peace =)

12/4/14 - Nikki having a laugh at the birthday card I gave her; I think she thought I was joking.

12/4/14 – Nikki having a laugh at the birthday card I gave her; I think she thought I was joking.

12/4/14 - Nikki’s birthday dinner - must be laughing at one of Chriso’s jokes!

12/4/14 – Nikki’s birthday dinner – must be laughing at one of Chriso’s jokes!

14/4/14 - Met Fitzy in the city! Such a nice bloke.

14/4/14 – Met Fitzy in the city! Such a nice bloke.

14/4/14 - Preparing for the chop!

15/4/14 – Preparing for the chop!

14/4/14 - Chloe helping the hairdresser cut the hair

15/4/14 – Clo helping the hairdresser cut the hair.




14/4/14 - Sisters of the chop.

15/4/14 – Sisters of the chop.

14/4/14 - My beautiful Bobbin family.

15/4/14 – My beautiful Bobbin family.

14/4/14 - I actually love this child so much that it sometimes hurts.

15/4/14 – My cousin Kristy’s baby Owen. I actually love this child so much that it sometimes hurts.

15/4/14 - Nikki learning some tricks of the trade in the plastic surgeon waiting room.

16/4/14 – Nikki learning some tricks of the trade in the plastic surgeon waiting room.

15/4/14 - If you donate your locks to the Beautiful Lengths programme, it goes to people that really need it - Laz.

16/4/14 – If you donate your locks to the Beautiful Lengths programme, it goes to people that really need it like my friend Laz.


22 thoughts on “VI – Learnalilgivinanlovin

  1. Jo Smith

    For a pretty crappy situation, I have to say this is an awesome read. Keep up the excellent work. Bye the way, love to new dooo!! Xx

  2. June

    Hi Ali, Thanks for creating this blog, I often think of you and wonder how you are getting on. I’m so impressed with your positive attitude, you will be such a help to others. Cheers, June

  3. Paul

    All the chapters are songs aye? What about the last chapter? I can’t read stuff with out spaces…… Truth is I can’t read at all, but in a strange twist of fate, I can write. Can someone please call me and read this blog aloud. I would call you but I don’t have any credit

  4. Taree

    Why reading ur blog day by day has made me relise that I should be just as strong as u , I may not suffer cancer but other physical illness , but ur really inspiring and keep those blogs coming coz I love reading them ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  5. Mark

    Hi Ali . Love your work .
    If you where wanting to have a chat with someone who has been through the same or similar treatment cancer council nsw (ph. 131120) offers a service called CancerConnect were they try and put you in contact with someone who has had the same or similar treatment & has com out the other side


  6. Nina

    Hello lovely, thank you for sharing your experience. I have just finished my chemo for BC. You are spot on, cancer is just a word. If you don’t let the fear take over, you can just focus on healing. And we’re lucky, life is so much sweeter from cancer. Honestly, chemo can take away your spirit at times but just remember, it will pass. There’s way too much conflicting info on food. Yes you should cut out processed foods etc. but don’t obsess over it. Sometimes you can only eat what you can stomach and that might be a pepperoni pizza. So enjoy it!

  7. Ali the blog is amazing-keep going it is such an extraordinary honest story and what a great way to deal with cancer (by talking about it and inspiring others to do the same) P.S. the staff at NCCC are extraordinary as well and in radiation you can pick the music you would like piped in while getting ZAPPED-cool ay- love ya xxxx and your mum, dad as well,
    oh heck the whole familyxxxx

  8. Megan

    Great to read this Ali! Keep up the positiveness (that’s a real word). It’s so generous of you to share your journey and the support you are getting. Can’t wait to read more. 🙂

  9. dusica

    Dear Alison,

    Thank you for sharing your life with us through the blog. I was devastated when I found that you had breast cancer. I’m so relieved to read this and to know you are getting better. It is really inspirational to read how you have managed the treatment and the support from your family and friends.

    My best wishes for a speedy recovery,


  10. Deb Bower

    Hi Ali, my hubby knows your dad through cricket and I work with your mum. Your mum kindly shared your thoughts and determination with me when you were first diagnosed then sent me the link to your blog as I was asking after you. Wanted to say I LOVE your approach to your situation and your courage in sharing your experience. Stay positive you are an awesome woman!!! Sending Reiki healing your way xx

  11. Narelle Halse

    Hi Ali. I walked to work with your dad this morning and he told me about your diagnosis and your blog. My husband played cricket with your Dad at Penrith and I haven’t seen you since you were little. You have grown into an amazing strong woman. Your attitude is fantastic and I will be following your journey. Stay strong. Lots of love.

  12. Gayle Lockley

    Hi Ali,
    Narelle (above) sent me your link & I’m so impressed by your wonderful & positive attitude towards what’s been dealt to you. Your amazing maturity & strength is so encouraging for others who may travel the same journey. Heather is a wonderful caring doctor.(mine also!)
    Looking foward to following you.

  13. Chelsea

    Hi Ali, not sure if you remember me but we used to play netball together years ago. I don’t know how I stumbled across this but I am so glad I did.
    You are amazing and such a strong woman!!

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